Resolving Conflict

Resolving Conflict

It would be an ideal world if we could see conflict as, a need to try and understand one another better than our current level of understanding.  As opposed to, assuming you need to make the other person completely wrong. “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” — William James To add to that, the question to ask yourself to check in with your own attitude is, how rigid or justified and negative do I feel?  That is an indication of where your attitude is at. If handled effect­ively, conflict can be an opportunity for learning, growth and positive change. Click to tweet In the workplace or in any relationship, conflict can be an opportunity to learn and stretch and grow as long as there is an open attitude of first seeking to understand before seeking to be understood. Note:  Just because you do give people the space to communicate their perspective does not mean you are agreeing with them, it means you are stopping and listening long enough to completely understand where they are coming from. In some instances people can experience a rise in emotions and in some cases, some folk are less adept at regulating emotions when their emotions start to fire up. This means the emotional response can over power the initial intent or the ability to ground, listen, empathise and consider other perspectives and other peoples thinking.   A few tips: Not all people are created the same.  Largely our ability to process and handle conflict comes from our family system.  It’s faulty to assume the...
When Your Inner Super Hero Needs Time Out

When Your Inner Super Hero Needs Time Out

Here’s 5 tips to keep your inner super hero from burning you out! Hey fellow Super Heroes, and you know who you are because you currently feel like I am speaking directly to YOU.  You are a go getter, you are juggling multiple roles, you say yes and you get sh#t done and then you jam a bit more in and get that done too! When you hear statements like, “I’m tired”, “I can’t do that”, “I’m too scared”, “I was gunna do it tomorrow”, “I just forgot”, “It’s alright for you, you’re making heaps of money”, it makes you want to breath fire like an angry dragon.  Because, you are using every cell in your body to do every possible thing you can to reach your goals and have a good, enriched successful life and to produce great work for a great price and have a great time doing it. But… Much to your horror and shock and inconvenience and quite unexpectedly and out of the blue, you cram so much in your productivity mania that, without you having too much say in it at all, your body, mind and maybe a bit of your soul, HITS THE PROVERBIAL WALL… w.t.f… What is this? This does not happen to you!  You are a machine.  Your body, mind and soul continue to produce as you call on them to do so right!  And yes, most of the time, you are right.  So I’m sure it may be quite inconvenient for you to hear that, you do have limits.  Sure you can push past them, and that comes at a price.  It’s just...