The self limiting… ‘WHAT IF’ fear.

What if I do transform?

What if I step into my full potential and my truth and my on purpose life?

What if I do stand out or shine?

These types of statements are grounded in FEAR.  FEAR OF SUCCESS or FEAR OF TRANSFORMATION , FEAR of change and for some of us that means FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN.

We have become very practiced at holding certain stories within our psyche and we have become very practiced at living with the energies and emotions and the physical and emotional results that holding those stories as our truth, manifests for us.

So, in order to release ourselves from these FEARS that seem like legitimate responses that we should listen to, we have to practice the very powerful tool, the very useful exercise of  making the unknown and the unfamiliar, THE KNOWN and the familiar.

The more acquainted you can make yourself the more known and familiar you can become with the stories that are your greatest desire for yourself, the less UNKNOWN they will seem to, the less UN-REAL they will seem to you, and the more APPEALING they become and the more ‘YOURS’ they become and the more INEVITABLE they become.

The FEAR of the unknown, the FEAR of your change and the changes that may ripple on as a result of your personal change is a signal that we are subconsciously responding to and buying into a defence mechanism, without questioning the basis of fear.

We have been functioning with those age old emotional programs most of our lives and so, they just seem like our truth and like life’s truth.

To share an analogy of a old program from your childhood playing out and limiting your potential as an adult

Here’s an empowering true, short story.

Two friends were on a holiday and when passing the elephants, one friend suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. Speaking to a trainer nearby they asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

“Well,” he said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size of rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.” We were amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we can’t do this or we cant do that, or we cant have or achieve certain things, simply because we failed at it once before or we don’t even let ourself try or dream of bigger or better or different.  Thinking we are saving ourself the disappointment of wanting and failing?  Indeed the real truth is, not allowing ourself to expand our desires or to dream bigger or better things for ourself is the true failure.  Buying into limiting conditioning is the true failure.

How many of us are being held back by old, outdated beliefs that no longer serve us? How many of us have avoided trying something new because of a limiting belief? Worse, how many of us are being held back by someone else’s limiting beliefs?

Most of what you can conceive and believe, you can achieve! We can go on this journey of manifesting our deepest desires for life, once we let go of the fear that holds us tethered to our false limits appearing real.

We can CHOOSE not to accept the false boundaries and limitations created by the past.  We can CHOOSE to roll around in the creative visualisation of our greatest desires becoming our manifested reality.  And we can buy into the stories that support and underpin and are the strong foundations for our deepest desires becoming our manifested reality.

Start by noticing where you feel disempowered.

Notice the story that you are buying into that holds you in that space and question the validity of that story.

Practice Imagining the more empowering story and start to image the actions the feelings the emotions and the thoughts associated with that better serving story.

Brisbane Life Coach |  Mindset Coach | Counsellor